Is Personality Everything?
They say a human being’s personality is a function of many things: birth order, race, religion, sex, socio-economic background, etc. This is crap. My personality wasn’t shaped by anything – it was forced upon me by my appearance.
Visually I peaked at age 4 and then went into steep decline. For a young girl I bore an uncanny resemblance to my father and so my adolescence was spent looking like a teenaged drag queen. This, along with a tragic over-bite, one eye brow, and a humiliatingly flat chest set the stage for who I was to become: a woman constantly over-compensating for being the least attractive 15 year old in the room.
If I were good looking on the other hand I wouldn’t have had to bother. And by ‘good looking’ I don’t mean attractive or cute or she-has-her-own-style, I mean full blown sexy-gorgeous. The kind of woman who – no matter how much trouble you have taken to look fantastic – will make you wish you were dead. These are the girls who constantly complain about how men are always hitting on them, how they never know if a man likes them for who they are, and how men spend entire conversations staring at their tits instead of into their eyes. These are the idiots who have no FUCKING idea how over rated eye contact is. These are the girls I want to look like.
I am fed up of how easy it is for them and how exhausting it is for me. These people don’t have to be fun, or funny or interesting. They don’t even have to be nice. A beautiful woman can walk in to a party and look like she would rather be asleep and the host will be grateful to her. In the mean time because of the way things have panned out for me I had better bloody well bring it because as a not-sexy-gorgeous woman it’s my job. It’s the least I can do.
And this is not all in my head. A few months ago I was involved in a discussion with two male friends about how they rate women. They went through a long list of ladies they knew rating them one by one. I humbly awaited my rating. Friend X said he would give me an 8 on 10. I was thrilled, I was over the moon, and I was able to enjoy this compliment for a very brief moment because the other friend, Friend Y expressed extreme vocal shock that someone would give me an 8. In his view I was a 6 or 6.5 at best. Then Friend X, not wanting to look like he had low standards, defended his argument by saying that what he meant was with my personality and everything (‘everything’?) I could be an 8.
It reminds me of a system we had in college that allowed the slackers an opportunity to up their GPA by committing to several hours of social work. An opportunity I grabbed with both hands. Clearly my life was, and continues to be, a long list of things that have to be added up to make the end result palatable. I have to add my personality, general good health and career prospects to get to an 8. So yes – personality is everything – because for some of us it has to be.
Thank god you don’t see what we see or we’d have a MONSTER on our hands.
Am sure your feelings are heartfelt but I found it hard to sympathize with this latest post. A lot of people would KILL to be you! And I would rather hang with you than any of those clones.
hmmm, you’re begging for compliments with this one mai lowe… yes, fine we love you. and tis a good thing that this world is not full of people like X & Y there….and god knows there’s enough of T & A to appease those
Unlike what the others feel…i do believe this has been your best blog and writing yet….
It has some substance, depth and i think people will identify with it.
Having said this…you are definitely fishing!!
You’re contradicting your own point Rads! but then you’re probably the exception no?! but i know what you mean about beautiful people not having to make an effort!
Good one Rads..
in continuation,
they say: beauty lies in the eye of the beholder
i say: beauty lies in the eye of the beholder
(s) and the holder(s)
It seems the other people commenting know what you look like and can make fair comments…. for the rest of us who do not.. We want to know how valid this blog really is so we can give sympathy where it is due or go with the fishing comments
So want to know exactly how fatntastic my personality is?
good one vazy…and very true….this is not bout u though…..when i think of sexy..i think of u………..
lots of fishing for sure.
now let’s talk about being the chip of the old paternal block looks-wise at least. you know, had i been born a woman, ‘gorgeous body, gorgeous mind, what a personality!’ is what would have been inside of everybody’s skull; ten most beautiful women of the century; and stuff. so i don’t see how the “uncanny resemblance to my father” could have been a source of any kind of disadvantage to you, dot. and gayathri (you there) – beautiful women who don’t make an effort usually earn the sobriquet “dumbbell” “eye-candy” – it’s only because you make an effort and, more importantly, have the wherewithal to make the effort that makes you the attractive and sexy thing you are. rohan, don’t you agree?
i love ya bertie wertie
Judging by your picture the lack of boobs is a ship that sailed a long time ago… right now the girls would be the first thing I would grab if the boat was going down…!
Don’t worry though… anyone who can orgasm the way you do and fart with impunity surely rates a 9 ?
DT
do we know X and Y?
they’d better run and hide under their mama’s skirts if we do
sexy is an attitude woman, nothing to do with body… All to do with brain… You know that more than i do
and you are one hottie!!